In so many ways this has been an awesome year so far. I can say with no qualms that I love my life. Don’t get it twisted, I’m not saying my life is perfect but when I look at the sum total I am content. But every now and then I get frustrated and I have those moments when I just want to stay under my covers and not tackle the world for the day. Those moments have been coming a lot more often the past month and I’m trying to understand it and work my way through it because being sad/tired/frustrated seems to make time drag and takes so much more energy. Negativity is draining but positivity is energizing. Think about it. When you’re around a group of positive people you kind of feel a little “electric” yourself. But when you’re around a bunch of mumbling, complaining, sad people it takes a toll on you. “A cheerful heart is good medicine but a crushed sprit dries up the bones” (Proverbs 17:22).
As of today I am only at 25% of my goal for the year. I know that I work hard. I know that I eat way better than I did last year. I also know that basic math never lies; to lose weight you have to consume less calories than you expend. So my truth is staring me dead in the face and I have to confront it so that I can reach my goal. Up to this point the work I’ve put in has been enough, but because I have fewer fat stores it seems like my body is making me really fight for these last 50 lbs. This is the point at which I’ve faltered before.
Back in 2003 I lost 60 lbs in about six or seven months. I spent 2 hours in the gym, five days a week and got down to a solid size 18 (from a 24/26, 312 lbs) and 252. And then. . .NADA! I stopped dropping pounds. I hooked up with a personal trainer and did three sessions a week but still zilch. By that October I started giving up little by little. I started allowing “red light” foods back into my regular diet, the amount of time I spent in the gym decreased, and I stopped seeing what was possible because all I could see was the number in front of me on the scale. I had hit my breaking point and caved in; I didn’t even fight.
I feel that same thing happening to me right now. Those little voices are saying, “Maybe it’s not meant for you to be any smaller. Why are you working so hard? If you could just do this or that maybe it would be easier.” My inner coach’s voice is even diminished sometimes and it’s hard for me to mentally put myself back in the game. The crazy thing is, I’ve lost more at this point than what’s left to lose. If this were a half-marathon it would be mile 7, that point at which you have more course behind you than in front of you. That’s when I tell myself there is no turning back; there is no giving up because I’m almost done.
I am sharing this with you because if you are at your breaking point, I encourage you to keep pushing. If you’re like me you’ve hit this point a time or two before and gave in. Ask yourself, “What was the result?” Did giving up get you any closer to what you wanted? Did you feel any better after you gave up? Imagine what is possible if you stay in the game and get past that breaking point. Maybe you’ll see a difference next week, next month. You never know what you’re fully capable of if you never allow yourself to get past the breaking point. For myself, I am doing some soul searching and learning how to deal with my food addiction (yes, I have that) and coming to terms with making some drastic changes in my diet.
What I know for sure is that I’ve come too far on this journey to let 50 lbs keep me from claiming victory. This moment shall pass and at the end of it I will be stronger and a step or two closer to my goal.
You are such a strong and beautiful woman. You have come so far and you can do this thing! I'm only an email or phone call away if you ever need an ear. Love to you and prayers as you battle these last pounds.
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