Learning to Fish

Learning to Fish

Lately a number of people have asked me to help them with understanding what to eat and meal planning, which is a little hilarious to me. We're talking about the girl who still has to gently say to herself occasionally, "You are not refrigerator; you were not made to store food." We're talking about the girl who who could eat a gyro, a Philly cheese steak, two bags of chips, and finish it off with two sodas. They're asking me for help? 

Nutrition is the area where I continue to research and tweak. There are so many plans, studies, fads, methods, and gurus out there that it can be very confusing. Trying to understand it all can frustrate you and keep you from moving forward. Over the course of the next few blogs, I will share with you what I have

learned thus far. I am in no way an expert, so if you are seeking expert advice please reach out to a dietitian or nutritionist. Notice that I didn't say personal trainer. Why? Because personal trainers are not certified to give nutrition information. Their study includes some nutrition information, but it does not certify them to prescribe nutrition plans. Now, don't take that as a rant against personal trainers because it's not; I've loved all of my personal trainers. I just caution you to seek an expert on nutrition if you are taking it that far.

Before sharing with you, I had to pray about the subject and ask God what I should say. I don't take this lightly because I understand the struggle. I still live the struggle in my own ways. What I am going to do is teach you how to fish. Not literally, of course. What I notice is that people don't go get information on their own. You take what someone tells you as truth without seeking out your own answers. Don't get me wrong, not everyone has a couple of hours a day to research this stuff, but you should know enough to decipher whether what you're being told is sound. That is my goal: equip you with the basics to help you succeed. Where you go from there is up to you.

Six Part Series:

1--Getting Started: assessing the "now," setting habits and getting equipped

2--Setting Direction: know your numbers, know the lingo, know where you're headed

3--Choices: evaluating your choices and making choices that work for your lifestyle

4--Gathering: how to grocery shop, tips on what to keep stocked, exploring the aisles

5--Meal Prep: how to make it fit your life, making the time, what to prep

6--Enjoying the Journey: rewarding behavior, tracking progress, setting new goals

Each part will be posted on Sunday, so remember to come back and check it out or just click to follow this blog. During that week, put the tips and guidance into action and post here in the comments to let me know how it's going or share your experiences with others. Get ready to be Fit4Life!

Know That...

I'm sitting here waiting on the kids (my boys and my little nephews) to finish up their stations at the Junior League's "Kids in the Kitchen." They held a pilot parents' session hosted by a local catering company and it sparked this blog. So while I have a precious moment to myself I'm going to share some things with you all.

This year I haven't shared my goals, visions, and dreams for 2014 and beyond. The last week has been full of incidents that seem to be spurring me forward in the direction of my goals. I have been stalling. I have been knocking the wind out of my own sail because I'm a little bit afraid of the journey. Not very warrior like of me, I know. Does a true warrior look down the road toward the battle and say, "Naaaahhhh, I'm not ready to give what's required to win." That is not a warrior. 

We all fear things. We all face obstacles and have to decide how we deal with them. Some of us try to ignore them but there is a cost to that. Some of us try to quietly go another route to avoid them, but there is a cost to that. The greatest risk and the greatest reward is to face the obstacle head-on. To conquer it. How much greater is the victory in conquering than in shirking? 

Some of you may have set resolutions (or goals) at the start of the New Year. And at this point, almost thirty days in, you may feel like the goal is just too big or just too hard. You may find yourself feeling like whatever you hoped to gain is not meant for you. Before you write yourself off as a failure, I want to encourage you to just keep at it. You may have to revise the plan and it may take longer than you initially hoped, but don't give up. Don't be afraid and don't let the struggle deter you from victory. Go move the mountain!

• Know that change takes time. So be realistic about your deadlines and time frames.
• Know that change requires CHANGE. You cannot expect change if you don't actually CHANGE some things. 
• Know that change requires consistency. You don't get lasting change with sporadic action. Be consistent--not perfect.
• Know that change is scary. Change is risk and requires something of us, which is scary. Move past your fear.
• Know that change requires support. Connect with people or groups that will support your efforts. This is priceless. 
• Know your WHY. This is crucial. You have to connect the change with something valuable to you. Otherwise, what is the point? Why invest the time if this change doesn't really mean anything to you?
• Know that it will be worth the risk. Every time you succeed, you get a little stronger. You discover new strengths, new possibilities. The journey to change is as valuable as reaching the desired goal. 

As I embark on a new course, I encourage you to keep moving forward along your own. Know that you are not alone.

Love on Purpose

During my run this evening I didn't really think about pacing, or hydrating, or splits. This evening I was thinking about love. My heart was full and my mind was occupied with how to express the love I felt at that moment for those whom I love. I was able to run this evening because someone loved me enough to take care of my children--picked them up from after care, kept them occupied, fed them. Parents out there know that this is golden!

As I drafted my thank you letter in my head, I remembered other instances of love in action and at that moment as I meandered through the Vanderbilt campus on a balmy fall evening, I felt at peace. And the spirit whispered to me, "that is your purpose." Ah, to love.

When we think about our specific purpose here on this earth, I think we feel an obligation to be these grand things.  Sometimes in our quest to be a person of purpose, we miss the opportunities to simply love. That's the reason we were created. Don't believe me? Go check the book of Genesis. God created us out of his want to love, to connect. And all throughout the Bible it's about Him wanting us to be with him and love him and show love to us. We complicate things and underestimate the importance of love.

Much of what I do is rooted in love, in some form. I help people because I love people--even when they don't love me. I love on little children because you never know if they're getting enough elsewhere. I workout because I genuinely love it and the results. I run because once I get into a rhythm, I love it. I blog because I hope in my heart that someone is helped or changed by something I've shared. I love seeing people strengthen their wings and fly. And I believe that because I live love, it is given back to me one hundred fold in so many different ways.

Oh, you thought this blog was about running? It is...sort of.

Warrior Within

Today I ran in the Wounded Warrior Project 8K—before you run off and do the conversion, that is approximately 4.97 miles. It’s probably one of my favorite races to run. Not because of the course, or the swag, or the entertainment. It’s one of my favorites because of the wounded warriors themselves.  While I am thankful for their service, what touches me more is their indomitable will to move forward. The soldiers whom I see running in the race or in the bike ride inspire me to push beyond what someone else may see as my “possibility.”

Around the 4 mile mark today I was passed by a soldier in a face mask and combat boots who was pushing another soldier in a wheelchair. Back at the 3 mile marker I saw the older man from last year pushing his walker along the course—head down, eyes focused, moving forward. Another team of solders had finished the race—carrying Old Glory—and ran back to escort and encourage others towards the finish line. Even at this event, they were giving their time in service to others.

This year has been tough. I've been told three times, by three different doctors to stop running. One told me to stop lifting heavy weights. Another told me to stop doing lunges and squats. For a minute I did heed their advice. And then my spirit started to question what was really possible. What more might I accomplish if I simply push past this moment?  Should I surrender to what they say is possible?

Don’t get me wrong, I know that we have to heed our doctor’s advice. I understand their reasoning. But I also know that their word is not law. Five years ago a team of doctors kept telling me that I would develop diabetes…yeah, NOT. Instead of letting their prognosis debilitate me, I take better care of myself. I make sure I take a rest day, stretch, ice as needed, get monthly massages, etc. etc. etc.

"Heroes" running for Heroes

So running among the warriors in this race this time around, I felt somewhat kindred. While our scars are of different origin, I understand a little bit about the spirit, the will, the vision, the courage it takes to move past “can’t” into “can.” I know what it feels like to conquer. Even as all my co-workers passed me, it didn't bother me the way it did a few months ago. Just being there with the ability to finish was enough for me. When I tell you that I took moments to enjoy the colors of the trees, encourage a few other runners, shout out to my co-workers, high-five volunteers...just being there was freaking awesome.

The icing on the cake for me during this race is when, at 4.39 miles in, a 60 year old gentleman with one hip and a survivor of a number of knee surgeries told me that I kept him pushing up the hills because I wouldn't stop. We made a pact to run the final stretch and not let each other stop. When he ran across the finish line I gave him the biggest hug. This life is magnificent! Use your pitfalls as opportunities to triumph and inspire others. Today I remember that all things are possible, if I have the faith to believe it and the will to move towards the vision. 

F2F Focus T25 Challenge!!

No, it's not New Years. No, I'm not on team two piece. No, I'm not trying to fit into a dress. Someone reason asked what I was traning for. My answer? LIFE!! My quest to lose this last 30-40 pounds is purely because I want to.

And then came Shaun T's Focus T25: 25 minutes a day, 5 days a week, for 50 days. Dude!!

Want to join me? Order your challenge pack then connect with me on Facebook or Instagram (@jlawf2f). Order by July 31st and you save $80!

Starting August 1st, I promise to share my journey with you and I ask that you do the same. Whether you know it or not, your journey will inspire others to make changes in their own lives. And that's really the point, right? To be our best selves.

Let's do it!

Your Cardio Routine is Making You Fat

Thank you!! I hope people really start understanding this. If you want to lose "weight," then yes, do two hours of cardio. But if you want to lose fat, hit the weights and scale back on the traditional cardio.

Cardio is for cardio-respiratory health, so yes, you should do it. But if you're talking about changing your body composition for the better, increasing your metabolism, and getting a hard body (look at sprinters versus marathon runners; look at crossfitters versus cyclists) then hit the weights, baby!

Read the article below by Jim Karas and share your thoughts.

Your Cardio Routine is Making You Fat | Yahoo! Health

Save a Dollar, Make Ya Hollah!

My little sister shared the following post on Facebook:



Save a buck or two!



"Let me share my frustration with you, Facebook. So, I'm not the best eater, but I do what I can. Every now & then, I splurge & buy a little something for myself. Keep in mind I'm an unemployed college student, so I can't afford to trick off in the grocery store all the time. Last week I decided to get some fancy deli meats & cheeses. Even got some fresh produce & fancy 9 seed & grain wheat deli bread for my sammiches. Cool. Sammiches are DELICIOUS. Fast forward to today, I go to make a sammich. I have a whole half of MOLDY deli bread. Lemme tell you something. I don't eat sammiches enough to eat an entire loaf in one week, but I'm TIRED of wasting money & food trying to eat "healthier." $4 on bread that molds in 7 days. I could have spent $2 on bread that would last 2 months. This is why people buy cheap stuff. We don't have time or money to waste buying expensive food that doesn't last."

And of course, Big Sister is here to help. I know she's not the only person out there feeling the strain and frustration of eating healthy while on a budget. Let's face it, the grilled chicken wrap is not on the Dollar Menu. A box of my favorite quinoa costs $6.99 while a bag of white rice costs about five dollars less. So what's a F2F'er to do??

 

There are a few rules and tips I use when I grocery shop that I hope will help you.

What is your goal/purpose?

It can be confusing to decide on the best options when you hear so much about gluten free, organic, whole grains, farm raised, farm fresh, non-GMO, non-growth hormone injected, etc. etc. etc. With all of the studies and options out there, you have to decide your goal. Are you concerned about gluten? Then that should be a priority when you shop. Are you adamant about using and eating organic products? Then that should be a priority when you shop. However, if you don't really understand the hype and don't really know the difference, then don't spend the money. Do a little research, try a couple of products and then decide if you want to make it a shopping priority.  

Save then Plan, Plan to Save 

You see it all the time. Experts say plan your meals then go to the store, but I beg to differ. What works best for me is having staples on hand--which for me includes things like cans of black beans, eggs, egg whites, tuna, frozen chopped onions, canned tomatoes, high fiber oatmeal, frozen fruit, raw sugar, almond milk, etc.--and checking to see what items are on sale at my ususal grocery stores. Sometimes I luck up on deals while I'm in the store then I'll create a recipe using the things I have on hand.

 

For example, my local Walgreens had cans of pumpkin on clearance for like 24cents a can. I grabbed about six of them and then created pumpkin protein shakes, pumpkin protein muffins, and a crustless pumpkin pie for my boys. And yes, they all turned out great.

 

It may be helpful to you to have a couple of meals in mind but don't stick to those plans if they are harmful to your pockets.

 

Speaking of sales. I personally check Publix's (www.publix.com) weekly BOGOs and Kroger's (www.kroger.com) 10 for $10 or the coupon booklet they send me. I love Arnold's bread but it can be expensive, so I catch it while it's on BOGO at Publix. And to preserve it (because we really don't eat a lot of bread in my house), I keep it in the fridge. Also, check out some of the discount grocery stores. We have an Aldis near me and they have some name brand items for less than what I would pay at other grocery stores. You don't have to shop at Whole Foods or specialty health stores unless that is a priority for you (see the previous section). And don't forget to comparison shop. "Save a buck or two!"  

Keep It Simple

I fully admit that I skip past recipes that have more than ten ingredients. Seriously, "ain't nobody got time for that!" The beautiful thing about eating whole foods is that they already taste good. Cooking it should enhance their flavor, not hide it. Oh, and if it calls for crazy stuff like rolling out dough or requires some fancy equipment beyond my food chopper, a knife, a mixer, or a blender then I say, "No way, Jose."

 

One of the ways I create is by using recipes as a starting point. I'll read over a couple, check what I have on hand, and think about how I can change the recipes to suit my tastes. Keeping both the ingredients and the prep simple means you're more apt to create again. Remember, you're doing this eating healthy thing for the rest of your life.

Try One New Thing

My journey to fit has evolved over time. There are still times when I mix the good with the not so great, but for the most part I've overhauled my "diet" from what it used to be. One of the ways I've done that is by exploring food options.

 

I like to meander through the produce department and see what veggies are there that I haven't tried. Sometimes I'll google recipes while I'm standing there to see what the possibilities are. Who would have ever known that I would love spaghetti squash? Asparagus?? I don't ever recall eating that growing up, but now I absolutely love it. There was a time in my life when I hated spinach and now a bag of fresh spinach is a staple for me.

 

I encourage you to pick up one new item every time you shop. It will help you add variety and expand your palate. And think about the benefits to your body! Have your read all the wonderful news about lentils?? (I have a blog entry about it, check it out) Power packed, baby!

 

My one word of caution is to make sure that the new item fits into your budget. If it's on sale, sure, throw it in the cart. If it's going to break the bank, try it another time.

 

Fresh and Frozen

When I first started eathing healthier I would load up on fresh veggies...and a week later I would stress because I hadn't used all of them. Maybe you have money to burn, but I do not. Then one day I strolled down the freezer aisle and saw bagged chopped onions. Hmm...Add to that, "frozen vegetables may be even more healthful than some of the fresh produce sold in supermarkets, says Gene Lester, Ph.D., a plant physiologist at the USDA Agricultural Research Center in Weslaco, Texas...Fruits and vegetables chosen for freezing tend to be processed at their peak ripeness, a time when—as a general rule—they are most nutrient-packed." (www.eatingwell.com)

I'm sold! Now I buy most of my fruits and veggies frozen not only because it saves money, but because it also works for my life. Everytime I hit the grocery store I usually load up on frozen chopped onions, seasoning blend, 3 pepper and onion blend, broccoli, corn, cauliflower, carrots, green beans, and even brown rice (yes, Publix sells it frozen for a little over $1). Be mindful to get the plain old veggies--no salt, additives, or butter. Frozen fruit is freaking awesome! I mostly use it in my protein shakes or to make treats for my boys.

Typically I buy fresh lettuces (like green leaf) or bags of green leafys (kale, arugula, spinach) because I use those daily. I also buy fresh squashes, avocados, peppers, tomatoes, bananas, grapefruit, oranges, plums, grapes, etc. But I limit my purchases to what I know for sure I will use that week.

 

Hopefully these tips/rules will help you along your journey. Don't let food costs keep you from doing what's best for your body and don't let the plethora of options overwhelm you. You're in this for life, so you have time to fine tune it.

Tackling the Hills



View of capital bldg from Bicentennial Park



I live in Nashville, TN so I'm very familiar with hills. My neighborhood runs include hills whether I want them to or not, so I've learned to just GET OVER THEM. I didn't say that I run up those sons-a-snitches quickly or even that I look forward to them. I said I've learned to just GET OVER THEM. Standing at the bottom of one doesn't get me over it. Going another route just puts me at the foot of a different hill.

When I stop griping and complaining about the hills, I realize that they've made my legs stronger. And standing at the top of the hill can give you a great view (like the one from behind the capital, gorgeous!). The same principle applies in life. For the longest time I've wanted to obtain my primary group fitness certification but have hit one hill after another--money, car accident, not having the right study materials. But the biggest hill I've had to conquer is my FEAR. Yes, fear. The fear ranges from not feeling like I measure up to others, to not being able to pronounce anatomical terms, to wondering how others will judge the loose skin on my arms and around my belly. There is even a small inkling of a fear to actually succeed. Wow...

There is a scripture that says "there is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear." If I believe that God's love is perfect and that he blessed me with gifts out of his love for me and that his plan for me is inked by his love for me, then what am I fearing? If I venture forth and fail, have I really lost anything? Or will I know to be better the next time?

Lots of people ask me about how to start running or working out or eating right. But not many actually follow through. The tendency is to shake your head and write it off as they weren't really serious. However, for some, I get the feeling that their reluctance to move forward is rooted in a form of fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of the work it will take. Fear of the diligence required. Fear of being freaking awesome (yes, it's a great responsibility). So, as I go through the battlefield and conquer my own fears I will lift up a prayer for all of them. I pray that they get a small taste of victory to power them forward. I pray that they take hold of the love that casts out those fears and leads you to an abundant life--all aspects of life.

Hills. Fears. Whatever. Just get over them.

Moving Mountains

". . .I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there' and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you."~Matthew 17:20

Last night after Bible study I was talking to one of my Fit Club members and a couple other ladies. They were talking about working in a call center and how they sit so much and how hard it is to get their walks in since it's cold. And if you know me then you already know that I immediately offered some un-excuses for their "reasons." I quoted them the scripture about speaking to the mountain and telling it to move. We can move mountains if we believe we can.

I don't know that God meant that the mountain would literally move, but I believe that it's more about your faith and belief being so big that you no longer see the obstacle as a mountain. You no longer see it as this big, huge, insurmountable thing. Too often we encounter "mountains" and surrender all too soon. We see it looming in the distance and accept defeat. We decide that victory just isn't on the agenda for today and go back to merely existing.

Instead of seeing the mountain, I challenge you to see what is beyond it. I challenge you to come up with an un-excuse for every excuse that comes to mind for why you aren't practicing healthy habits. If you are honest with yourself, you may come to realize that you just don't care to remove the mountain; you want the results without the climb. Your faith has to be so strong that you believe nothing less than victory is acceptable. Your faith has to be so strong that you keep pushing even when the scale isn't showing you the numbers you think you want. Faith? Yes, faith.

While on an a hellacious 15k I learned a lesson in faith--I was literally on a mountain!! There were points during the race when I was praying for a bike or van or go cart to pick me up. There were times when I didn't think my legs could take me any further. Once I stopped crying and praying for an easy way off the mountain, I put my shoulders back, turned up my music, pumped my arms and step by step moved forward along the course towards victory.

Victory requires that you be courageous. Courage requires faith. Faith requires action.