Know That...

I'm sitting here waiting on the kids (my boys and my little nephews) to finish up their stations at the Junior League's "Kids in the Kitchen." They held a pilot parents' session hosted by a local catering company and it sparked this blog. So while I have a precious moment to myself I'm going to share some things with you all.

This year I haven't shared my goals, visions, and dreams for 2014 and beyond. The last week has been full of incidents that seem to be spurring me forward in the direction of my goals. I have been stalling. I have been knocking the wind out of my own sail because I'm a little bit afraid of the journey. Not very warrior like of me, I know. Does a true warrior look down the road toward the battle and say, "Naaaahhhh, I'm not ready to give what's required to win." That is not a warrior. 

We all fear things. We all face obstacles and have to decide how we deal with them. Some of us try to ignore them but there is a cost to that. Some of us try to quietly go another route to avoid them, but there is a cost to that. The greatest risk and the greatest reward is to face the obstacle head-on. To conquer it. How much greater is the victory in conquering than in shirking? 

Some of you may have set resolutions (or goals) at the start of the New Year. And at this point, almost thirty days in, you may feel like the goal is just too big or just too hard. You may find yourself feeling like whatever you hoped to gain is not meant for you. Before you write yourself off as a failure, I want to encourage you to just keep at it. You may have to revise the plan and it may take longer than you initially hoped, but don't give up. Don't be afraid and don't let the struggle deter you from victory. Go move the mountain!

• Know that change takes time. So be realistic about your deadlines and time frames.
• Know that change requires CHANGE. You cannot expect change if you don't actually CHANGE some things. 
• Know that change requires consistency. You don't get lasting change with sporadic action. Be consistent--not perfect.
• Know that change is scary. Change is risk and requires something of us, which is scary. Move past your fear.
• Know that change requires support. Connect with people or groups that will support your efforts. This is priceless. 
• Know your WHY. This is crucial. You have to connect the change with something valuable to you. Otherwise, what is the point? Why invest the time if this change doesn't really mean anything to you?
• Know that it will be worth the risk. Every time you succeed, you get a little stronger. You discover new strengths, new possibilities. The journey to change is as valuable as reaching the desired goal. 

As I embark on a new course, I encourage you to keep moving forward along your own. Know that you are not alone.

Love on Purpose

During my run this evening I didn't really think about pacing, or hydrating, or splits. This evening I was thinking about love. My heart was full and my mind was occupied with how to express the love I felt at that moment for those whom I love. I was able to run this evening because someone loved me enough to take care of my children--picked them up from after care, kept them occupied, fed them. Parents out there know that this is golden!

As I drafted my thank you letter in my head, I remembered other instances of love in action and at that moment as I meandered through the Vanderbilt campus on a balmy fall evening, I felt at peace. And the spirit whispered to me, "that is your purpose." Ah, to love.

When we think about our specific purpose here on this earth, I think we feel an obligation to be these grand things.  Sometimes in our quest to be a person of purpose, we miss the opportunities to simply love. That's the reason we were created. Don't believe me? Go check the book of Genesis. God created us out of his want to love, to connect. And all throughout the Bible it's about Him wanting us to be with him and love him and show love to us. We complicate things and underestimate the importance of love.

Much of what I do is rooted in love, in some form. I help people because I love people--even when they don't love me. I love on little children because you never know if they're getting enough elsewhere. I workout because I genuinely love it and the results. I run because once I get into a rhythm, I love it. I blog because I hope in my heart that someone is helped or changed by something I've shared. I love seeing people strengthen their wings and fly. And I believe that because I live love, it is given back to me one hundred fold in so many different ways.

Oh, you thought this blog was about running? It is...sort of.

Your Cardio Routine is Making You Fat

Thank you!! I hope people really start understanding this. If you want to lose "weight," then yes, do two hours of cardio. But if you want to lose fat, hit the weights and scale back on the traditional cardio.

Cardio is for cardio-respiratory health, so yes, you should do it. But if you're talking about changing your body composition for the better, increasing your metabolism, and getting a hard body (look at sprinters versus marathon runners; look at crossfitters versus cyclists) then hit the weights, baby!

Read the article below by Jim Karas and share your thoughts.

Your Cardio Routine is Making You Fat | Yahoo! Health

Seeds and Soaring...They're Related

Gardening is not my thing. Ask any of the plants I have killed...including the cactus. My lack of gardening skill noted, this morning I woke up thinking about planting and seeds--but not vegetation. The musings on planting, seeds, and harvest led me to thinking...

1) Do I seek to plant seeds in fertile ground?

2) Am I fertile ground, ready to receive seeds from others?

Before you mosey on to the next running blog thinking my laces are too tight, humor me.

Do I seek to plant seeds in fertile ground?

It's been my experience that people make a show of seeking answers. Some people ask you the "how" when they haven't discovered for themselves the "why" and aren't accepting of your "how" when you tell them. I can see the "what you talking about, Wills?" look on your face.

If you've lost weight, think about the number of people who ask you how you did it. If you tell them it took a lot of hard work, eating right, consistent decisions, and time they don't really want to hear that. They move on to the gimmick or quick fix. They, my dears, are not fertile ground. Or perhaps, you share something and they negate everything you say or keep saying "I can't" or "I don't like." Again, not fertile ground. With these types you will have to let time and experience wash away the pebbles that prevent the seeds from taking root.

You know fertile ground because they accept the seeds and you see evidence of growth. They start thinking about their choices. Or they follow up whatever seeds you gave and request more seeds. They put action to words. This, my dears, is fertile ground. As a coach, when this happens I am ecstatic because it tells me that something inside has changed. And no matter how much people focus on the exterior, lasting changes are born from within. Think about it. The exterior beauty of a tree doesn't last long once disease sets in at it's roots.

When people I've coached text, email, and call me while they are grocery shopping, I know that's good ground. When they make a choice to walk while their kids are at baseball practice, I know that's good ground. When they ask about the benefits of strength training or even what is strength training, I know that's good ground. I know that person is taking those seeds and nurturing them in order to see growth.

Feb 2007 to May 2013

Don't exhaust and deplete yourself throwing seeds around. Those seeds are powerful and should be planted with care. Use discernment to determine if it's good ground. Listen to what people are asking you. Listen to their answers. Observe their actions. Is this the ground in which you want your seeds planted? Will this person nurture the seeds? I share information and am willing to help anyone, but the level of my help is dependent upon the type of ground I perceive them to be.

Am I fertile ground, ready to receive seeds from others?

A few years ago I attended a women's conference at my church. One of the nuggets that I keep from that conference is "spend time in the company of eagles." At the time I felt more like a chicken pecking around on the ground, but now I understand. When you are in the company of eagles you get excited--excited by the site of them soaring and excited at the possibility of YOU soaring. You learn from other eagles the skills needed to lock your wings no matter how strong the wind or when to stay put and fly later.

 

Wait, wait, wait. I went from seeds to eagles. They're related.

 

The point is, as much as I think I know how to traverse this journey, am I willing to receive direction and knowledge from others? Do I take the seeds they give me and DO something with them? Do I open myself up to "watering" and growing?

 

As great as Serena Williams is, she has a coach. She has a team of people who are there to help her be the best athlete she can be. I recall reading a quote from Ryan Hall when he realized that perhaps being his own coach wasn't the best way to progress. God designed us to need each other. When we make ourselves good planters AND good ground it's a beautiful thing. It means that we continue to grow as those around us blossom.

 

All this talk about planting and growing in the midst of Spring has me considering the gardening thing again...Lord help the world of flora. Maybe I'll just stick to fitness :) 

My "Why" Remembered

"Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more." --Tony Robbins

People use blogs for different things. I started this blog as a way of staying accountable but also with the hope that somewhere someone would read it and relate. My blogs mean something to me. I feel like a little piece of me is in each one. For the past couple of weeks I've been trying very hard to come up a topic but so far none of the outlines resonate with me. They come across as "preachy" and removed. If you wanted to learn about goal-setting you could go buy a book or Bing/Google it the same way I can. What I bring you here is snapshot into my journey in the hopes that it gives you fuel to continue your own. This weekend I was reminded of my "why" for starting this blog and the whole coaching initiative in the first place.

For those who have followed the Chronicles, if you recall I started a run/walk group called Fit Girl Posse back in September of 2010. It started off slow--one person showed up (love you Rhonda!)--but I've kept pushing. In January I renewed my efforts and streamlined some things. At the first scheduled meeting zero--yes, zilch--people showed up. At the second meeting my heart was full because six people showed up, including my best friend who is not into sweating, especially on a Saturday morning. In the few weeks since then I've seen one lady just absolutely rock the house (Casey, I'm talking about you!) and another begin to wield her influence to get those around her active (MP, that's you!).

This weekend I saw a friend who has battled weight right along with me run/walk 3.4 miles--EASY. I saw a mother, who is fighting to get fit, encourage her daughter along 2.4 miles. I watched that same daughter, in spite of her pain, finish every inch of the course--not taking the easy way out or bailing on the task at hand. I saw a little girl with asthma run alongside her mom instead of opting for her scooter. I heard a friend, with aching shins, thank me for getting her to come out. I saw a woman, who an hour earlier didn't want to part from her blanket and pillow, run ahead of everyone and finish an extra lap. I saw women who moments earlier had been strangers, encourage each other on to victory.


Fit Girl Posse @ Cane Ridge Park (2-26-11)

These women and girls reminded of me of why I chose this course. They reminded me of the vision God hid in my heart. Yes, as a Beachbody Coach I would love to earn an income. Yes, I have personal fitness goals to meet. But I believe with every thing that is within me that when you allow yourself to be used to bless others you CANNOT fail. Some people don't get it. Some may call it Pollyanna or Utopian. Whatever. As much as people tell me that I've inspired them, I am spurred forward by the evidence of success I see around me.

In twelve days I will step onto the course of the Tom King Classic Half-Marathon, ill prepared and nervous. When I hit mile 6 and think about turning back, I will see Rakeyya and keep pushing. When I hit mile 10 and think I can't go on, I will think of Bailey's little lungs and keep pushing. When I have conquered 13.1 miles I will look back on the course and know that I did not do it alone.


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